How the Gilmore girls Revival (further) Ruined Rory Gilmore’s Character

I know this post, and the additional posts I will probably write is months behind the revival, but let me just jump in now that I’ve taken some time away from watching it and finally reflect on it as I’ve been yearning for.  Also, if I wrote from the get-go, I’d probably be a lot more expressive in a very angry way, ha.

At a young age, I wanted to be like Rory.  I wanted to be a journalist like her, and aspired to go to a university and study something I was passionate about.  I wanted to meet the perfect small-town sweetheart, love the misunderstood teenager, and one day, fall for my college bad-boy.  For a middle schooler, Rory Gilmore was everything I’d want to be like.  It wasn’t until I got older and re-watched the show for the 10th time that I realized maybe Rory wasn’t someone I wanted to be.

As I watched the first few scenes of the revival, seeing Lorelai and Rory together was refreshing, but knowing that 9 years after graduating from Yale, Rory still had no idea where her life was going, wasn’t.  During the original run-through, she knew she wanted.  Sure, she picked Yale over Harvard, but she knew she wanted to be a journalist and never backed down from being a part of a school paper.  

Rory was fierce as a reporter of Chilton’s newspaper, The Franklin, and wrote a beautiful piece on asphalt of all things.  She made her way to editor of the Yale Daily News.  And yet, in her 30’s, she’s somehow lost her drive to write meaningful pieces?  What ever happened to wanting to be a foreign correspondent?  Did it slip away, like her passion for reading?  Rory was known for always carrying a book, and yet in the revival, we never once see her reading, carrying a book, or even mentioning any such detail that was once such a big part of who she was.

There was more to Rory than #TeamDean, #TeamJess, or #TeamLogan, but since that’s all anyone seems to note her character for, let’s get into that as well.  

It was good to see Dean make a brief appearance in the show, as it gave his character more closure than the rest of the cast.  Unlike Rory, he was married (again) and had much moved on from a girl that broke his heart on more than one occasion.  

Meanwhile, Rory had some random boyfriend named Paul, that became a terrible gag of a joke about how forgettable he was to everyone.  Had they been anywhere but Stars Hallow, I’m pretty sure everyone would have forgotten Rory and her dry personality.  

On the side, she was sleeping with an engaged Logan in London, and I was furious at all aspects of that.  First of all, when Rory broke up Dean and Lindsay’s relationship, she had remorse for what she was doing; this second time around, she didn’t seem to have a care in the world for who she was hurting, and she had the audacity to be jealous of Logan’s fiance!  

It was all levels of an all around horrible human-being / homewrecker, and while not surprised by Logan’s actions, I was disappointed where he had ended up.  At the end of season 7, he decides not to follow along with Mitchum Huntzberger’s plan for him; instead of being “shoved” into his future, he decided to move out to Sunnyvale and work for a start-up.  He probably would have been a part of creating Snapchat or Instagram had he done that, and had an avocado tree in his backyard.  Just saying. .  

Jess, momentarily, seemed to be the only one who followed his dreams in writing (and he grew a mustache, which i was not a fan of.)  I always liked Jess, but thought Rory took advantage of his presence in her life.  I still do.  I get that Luke waited for Lorelai for a long time, but to put Jess through that same fate was cruel.  They either should have been together, or he should have completely moved on.  Rory has done nothing but hurt Jess from the get-go, and he was the only one to treat her right and to talk sense in her when nobody else could.  

While I get that in your 30’s, things aren’t always as perfectly planned as everyone hopes it’ll be, I think it’s too unrealistic to think that men from your youth will still be pining for a girl that broke their hearts.  I can’t stand the “full circle” idea that only revealed itself in this revival, and couldn’t stand how Rory seemed to become more immature and entitled than she had ever acted previously (and boy, was she already both of those from the get-go!).

Some fans believe that instead of a #TeamWhoeverGuy, that it was about being on #TeamRory.  I however, strongly disagree.  Rory came from a humbling upbringing, but became more and more spoiled with every passing season.  Someone should have cut her off from the Gilmore trust fund… or did she spend that all on her own from going back and forth to London every other month?  

How does a girl with a trust fund, and I’m sure, money from Richard’s will, run out of money and start couch-hopping?  Everything that made Rory a great character in the early seasons was diminished, and all that was left at the end of the Revival series was a waste of 7 years of development.

If Netflix decides to pick up on additional seasons, my inner Gilmore-loving self will end up watching, but will never be able to admire, or even like Rory Gilmore ever again.

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Women’s History Month

To celebrate Women’s History Month, I want to take a moment and thank all the strong, brilliant, and powerful women leaders out there.  This year alone, we have seen so many beautiful moments of unity through women activists from all over the world.  Each month of this year so far has held incredible peaceful protests led by women, welcoming anyone who is ready to fight the good fight.

In January, we saw women and men alike wearing pink in solidarity of women.  What started off as an idea to protest after Donald J. Trump’s inauguration became so much more.  The idea triggered a spark in women that led to something much greater than the Women’s March.  It became the start of a new revolution for women, and the largest peaceful protest in United States history with literally millions of participants.  

Crowds throughout the United States stood in unity of bright pink cat earred beanies, clever posters, powerful messages, and strong women.  From Washington D.C., to cities all over the world, women came out to stand in solidarity with one another and to remind one another that we are more than sexual objects that the current president makes us seem.  We are sisters, mothers, daughters, wives, friends, engineers, doctors, nurses, teachers, and so much more.  We are fearless.  We are strong.  We are resilient.  We won’t keep quiet.

In February, women around the country busted out their pink beanies once again, to stand with Planned Parenthood as Donald Trump made decision to defund Planned Parenthood.  Those who are against Planned Parenthood generally associate the health clinic with abortions, but the clinics offer so much more than that.  Here’s a brief run-down of a few services that Planned Parenthood provides:

  • women and men with affordable health care
  • allows women to have control over their reproductive rights
  • promotes sex education
  • offers low-cost pap smears and breast exams

For many women, it is a safe place where they can get the healthcare that they need when they can’t always afford it at a regular health clinic.  The Stand With Planned Parenthood protests began at local Planned Parenthoods, marching through cities as a sea of pink.  

This protest was meaningful to me, as a young woman who has been a patient of Planned Parenthood for several years.  I have been on birth control since I first became sexually active at the age of 17.  Having strict parents, this was not something I could reveal to them or open up about at that age.  Planned Parenthood, however, was able to help provide me with a year’s supply of birth control, , a supply of condoms, a Plan-B pill and a regular STI exam with every visit.  Through each of these visits, and the two different clinics I’ve gone to, I’ve never felt unwelcome or out of place.  Best of all, I was able to take control of my reproductive health and earn my undergraduate degree with no worries of anything unwanted.

I attended the protest in my college city with two girlfriends, as we listened to the speeches at the end of the march.  I was touched by how diverse the speakers were; women sharing stories of a time before Planned Parenthood, families sharing their experience in family planning, women of color praising Planned Parenthood for being a safe place for immigrants both legal and illegal, fathers who care for their daughters, and the LGBQT community that was able to get hormones through Planned Parenthood as well as STI / STD screenings.  So many people of all different backgrounds felt so incredibly grateful for Planned Parenthood and depend on it, and I am one of them.

This month, for International Women’s Day, women who were able to skip work participated in a “Day Without a Woman”.  This time, instead of a sea of pink, women and men all over the country wore red to stand with the women who protested for equality.  The strike asked employers to imagine “a day without a woman”, and to further make a statement, women participating in this protest did not shop or spend on this day.

All of these protests, rallies, and risks are led by women, planned by women, but welcome to everyone and anyone.  That’s equality.  So here’s to all the ladies who are putting in work, who are changing the game and making moves that are making history.  Happy Women’s History Month to all the strong ladies out there, you are all inspiring.  

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To Those Who Marched:

Disclaimer: I’m not a political expert.  I do my research in topics that I am concerned about, and I have strong opinions on things I believe in.  I do not write things to anger others who have different beliefs than I do, but in the case that it happens, let us all remember to put aside our political differences and be respectful to one another.

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The last Saturday, millions all over the world participated in the #WomensMarch.  Sadly, I was not one of them.  However, that’s not why I’m writing.  To be perfectly honest, I didn’t plan on participating in the Women’s March.  I didn’t plan accordingly, but I wish I had been a part of that moment in history.  But once again, this post isn’t about my lack of marching.  Instead, this one goes out to my ladies.

To all the women who marched, I thank you.  Thank you for marching in solidarity with one another, and thank you for participating in one of the largest and most peaceful protests U.S. history.  Thank you for standing up for all rights beyond the hashtag.  Thank you for standing with Planned Parenthood.  Thank you for standing for our LGBTQ sisters and brothers.  Thank you for standing for the fabric of our country, the people of color.  Thank you for standing with our Muslim sisters and brothers who are in fear of this presidency.  Thank you for uplifting one another, and all those around us.  Thank you for being inclusive of anyone who wanted to stand up for these rights, no matter the age, gender, race, or sexual preference.

I experienced the Women’s March vicariously through social media, and I was so impressed by all that I saw.  Ladies, we are strong, smart, and creative.  I’ve seen so many different signs that I loved that have all been heartwarming, sassy, and incredibly clever.  I love that so many women have honored Carrie Fisher’s iconic role of Princess Leia through their posters that read, “A Woman’s Place is in The Resistance”.  I felt chills as I heard a beautiful group of women sing, “I Can’t Keep Quiet”, which has practically become the anthem to the movement, and that I’ve now listened to every day since Saturday.  I am totally digging the pussy-hats that hundreds of thousands of women have made and worn to be in solidarity with one another.  I loved seeing the sea of pink across cities and states, and seeing the solidarity that spread around the world.

Ladies, we are capable of anything.  If this march proved anything, it is that we are not going to back down while there are others who are not being treated with equality.  It proved that we can, and will work together until we see changes that need to be made. Let us continue to strive forth for a better future for ourselves, for our daughters, our nieces, our friends, our students, and for anyone who wants to see the same positive changes in the world.  And until then, remember, “I Can’t Keep Quiet”.

XO,
E.T.